How to win a fight with your spouse
Do THIS when you’re stuck in your relationships #halehbanani
Do THIS when you're stuck in your relationships #halehbanani
By Haleh Banani, M.A.
Haleh Banani holds a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology. A faith-based counselor, life coach, and mental health professional who has served the community since 1998 by saving hundreds of marriages and helping thousands of people around the world overcome their challenges and become the most amazing version of themselves.
Previous Article
Next Article
Get The Support and Help You Need TodaySchedule Session |
Exactly
I can understand you may take it otherwise because ..you fill it up. I dont know.
It is more like ‘ok when to get married when your father is in hospital with corona’.I experienced it as not sinchronised with my emotions. I did not take you as a serious person after that.
I was preoccupied with negative thinking about male attention. I was passive agressive already and was too vulnerable at that moment to think straight. Then when it came up with marry pasport..I just took you as an idiot trying to ask every girl he sees asking to marry or bla bla..but I saw you as a true friend. I did not even feel the need to take you seriously as a potential partner.
Mansha’allah
Am really exhausted
Aslam is happening everyday nw
Masha Allah I can’t stop watching your videos sisters may Allah reward for what you’re doing Alhamdulilah I have been married for 11 years October 25 will make us 12 years in sha Allah my marriage have been going well since I got married to my husband but we still need people like you for reminder and I share your videos with friends I sent one of your video to my husband yesterday when he came home after work he asked me why did I sent him the video he said is he doing something wrong to me that he doesn’t realize it I said no habibi I just love the sister videos he said okay mash Allah
Very good advice thank you Haleh .
Ameen Ameen Ameen
im 6 months pregnant and having marriage difficulties. theyve been ongoing since february but building and getting worse. the environment i was in didnt help as i wqs told to get out of the house and im not welcome by my mother not for any reason as I confronted my feelings and even asked if i did anything to upset but stayed quiet, my dad brother all were there like a family meeting really her concerns were space and i completely get that we were already looking to move out but my mum is quite ocd with cleanliness and my son who is nearly 2 is just being a toddler and she can get very upset over it. ive never been in an environment where pe9ple are open to expressing feelungs they shut them off forget move on. im the opposite in the sense im quite open about feelings or id like to feel comfortable to be able to do so. also a family member tripped me up whilst pregnant apologised alhamdulilah but im still apprehensive. we went abroad to a different place for about 7 weeks. thought issues might be calmer better. now back in the same environment that I was told to get out of. and ive tried to let go and forgive but it doesnt mean im comfortable. covid restrictions havent given us any favours in this also since we were lockdowned and coulsnt move anywhere. my husband and I are constantly having issues. it seems to me to stem from a lack of empathy overall. he is very goal orientated. anf i understand why he may be that way. we are currently doing your 5 pillars of marriage course. InShaAllah it helps. I would love to do one to one with you just in hopes of improving myself regardless of wherher others change because i know im accountabke to Allah at the end of the day. Maybe one day when I can afford it. I know i have flaws. May Allah reward you for doing your best to help peoples marriages. ameen
I guess when the underlying issue is too grave thats when things go over and beyond repair !
It does need to be dealt with. First within yourself. Accept reality. Then it will begin to resolve itself. Hopefully.
What if the underlying issue is not fixable?
As salam Aliykum ….From Nigeria
df. scg
Very good advice Maa Sha Allah
we can’t have fights coz he doesn’t talk much lol so I learned also to be quiet and accept
Found this video very motivational.most arguments are trivial. Will try to be on the same side of the team. Not opponents.
Ismail Akoonjee Alhamdulillah I’m happy to hear that. It’s so critical to feel like you’re a team.
Haleh Banani Thanks. I live in South Africa. I follow you on fb.
Masya Allah tabaraakaAllah.. Somethings that we can change our mindset to see spouse as us..team..
Assalaamualaikum my dear Sister
Control emotions
When we discuss other people issues always ended up in argument
Last time I had an argument was a week before starting the 5 pillars of marriage. Alhamdulillah since than we don’t fight. We communicate in a proper manner. Alhamdulillah
Maryam Lora MashaAllah that’s amazing! I’m so happy to hear that 5 Pillars of Marriage helped your marriage. That makes me so happy! Thanks for sharing.
Wa Alikom Salam WB sister! I was not live, but Alhamdulillah I’m being able to take full advantage of your lecture.
Asst
Assalaamu Alaykum beautiful lady
My spouse was a wonderful man. He was not happy with me. I was not a good wifè. he has passed away now and i will be punished. What do i do
Ruheida Hassain I’m sorry about your loss. It takes a lot of courage to admit that mashaAllah. I suggest making tauba (repent) and try to be kind to his family members. You can also do sadaqa jareya (on going charity) for your spouse. May Allah ease your heart
Ruheida Hassain it took a lot of courage to admit that! Hugs and du’a for your healing.
How
Asalamu alaikom beautiful sister
Ameen ya robbal Aalameen
Everyday
اسلام عليكم
Mahmoud Jaseem وعليكم السلام ماذا تفعل هنا ،
Aslm from South Africa.
w a s wr wb
The best thing to do is talk through the problem.
Salaam w alaycom
Salam
Assalmuwalikum.
Increase tolerance
Aameen ya Allah
It definitely doesn’t take two to resolve conflict. We must learn to take 100 % responsibility.
Naeela Cassim Cajee That’s right!
Some conflict is good and necessary….
Nice advice.
However why fight , discussing out the problem the best way.
A. Rz I don’t agree with fighting at all- it’s a way to peak the interest of the viewer.
That’s some hardcore great workout, love it
I go all quiet but it doesn’t work either he just keep spewing words after words for hours on end I’ll leave the house to sit outside and he’ll follow me to keep arguing he’s totally irrational
We just agree to disagree when there isn’t a suitable compromise
Salaam
I can’t win an argument in the mirror lol let alone with hubster
As-Salam Alaykum dearest Haleh so lovely to see you
Call me