Would you be interested in knowing some magical spell to help make each one of your relationships more flexible and more enjoyable? The ONE formula through which, no matter whether it’s your spouse, kids, friends, and family, you’ll start getting along like no other?
No matter how bad you’re currently having with people close to you at the moment, there’s a way to fix it. A simple method by which you can brighten up your relationships with others and make them more meaningful. Well, before you get angry and start scolding me, I’ll stop delaying now and reveal the secret. So prick up your ears and hear with caution what I’m about to say next.
That one way to smoothen all your relationships is by surrounding yourself with a positive and friendly aura and bringing joy with you. And one of the simplest ways to do just that is by presenting that warm smile whenever you meet and greet each other. Our Prophet Muhammad S.A.W once said,
"Smiling is charity." By surrounding yourself with a negative aura whenever you cross paths with other people, what you're trying to say is, "Keep your distance, I'm not your friendly next-door neighbor here."
Don’t get it? Well, sorry to interrupt your curiosity, but you’ll have to scroll down a bit to get more details on what to do! Why wait then? Start scrolling! Time waits for none, remember?
The ONE Reason Why All Your Relationships Are Having a Downfall:
Have a look at the people around you and pay special attention to their facial expressions? Did you notice something wrong? Have you seen how most everybody is either frowning over matters, staring at each other with anxiety, glaring at their spouses as if beating each other is the most beautiful thing on the planet? On the other hand, how many individuals did you notice who had a warm expression and a friendly smile on their faces? Maybe you saw one by chance, but most probably you didn’t. Why is that? Because nobody wants to smile anymore!
Nowadays, what people like paying attention to is how to act cold and aloof. They pretend as if they’re some kind of esteemed immortal, and it’s a sin for ordinary folks to approach and chat with them or even say a greeting, etc. Why do people act like that? Because they think it’s “cool” to do so. As if surrounding yourself with intimidating energy and pasting a gloomy expression on your face will help elevate your status in the hearts of people around you. My friends, this cannot be any further from the truth than it already is.
What these intimidating acts and non-approachable expressions beget you is nothing but loneliness, loneliness, and even more loneliness. The moment you enter the room, people are like, “Oh no, he’s here now. I better get out or else I’ll become the object of his criticism and nagging anytime soon.” Yes, nobody says it out loud but so what. You can tell it from the nervous, anxious, and even expressions full of disgust hanging on their faces.
The Difficult Yet Success Guaranteed Path In Relationships:
People simply don’t like spending time with you anymore. And by the time you take notice of how lonely that aloof and cold expression on your face has made you, it’s already too late. So, forget about hanging out together; nobody even wants to talk to you anymore! Now, there’s no need to get nervous. Even if your relationships are ruined to the extent mentioned above, there’s still a way to fix it. But, ugly words at the forefront, it’s going to take time and some effort on your part!
Now that you’re aware of what you may have been doing wrong, I’ll tell you what to do to patch things up next.
The ONE Thing To Sugar-coat And Improve All Your Relationships:
Has it ever happened when you’re having a verbal confrontation with your spouse or else, and at that very moment, your client strikes with a phone call? How do you handle it? Do you pick up the phone and say something like, “Buzz off! I’m already in a very bad mood at the moment?” NO, you’d never do that. Nobody is crazy enough to do that since their earnings and livelihood depend on how good a relationship you’ve with your clients.
You’ll simply take a few deep breaths, do an instant calming job of your mood and pick the call with some warm and flowery greetings. Greetings that make your client think like you’re the sweetest person they’ve ever met. Don’t get me wrong here. I’m not saying that you’re hypocritical or anything. You see, we’re all like that. But, when it comes to our jobs, clients and projects, the tongues in our mouth even surpass honey and sugar in sweetness. Because hey, nobody wants to lose their job, right?
However, is losing a job uglier than breaking up with your partner, ruining your relationship with your kids and losing a good friend? It’s not! As long as you’ve the qualifications, you can get a new job, but the same isn’t the case with your spouse, kids, friends and family.
Hence, do yourself a favor, and whenever you get home from a stressful day or something unpleasant occurs in your life, take a breather and let yourself enter a cool down period. Maybe going to a park for a walk will help you refresh yourself. I know you’ve got a long and never-ending to-do list. Everybody has one, but hey, taking half an hour in calming yourself and making your mood brighter offers benefits like no other. Then, when you get back home, you’ll greet your family with the warmest smile you’ve ever shown anybody and what that does is help others re-bridge the gaps between yourselves and not be so distant anymore.
Remember, making these simple decisions to focus and get yourself thinking straight will shift how others feel around you. They’ll find it a blessing to be in your company and consider having a chat with you as a much desired and pleasant experience. Remember then, always think how you can present your 9/10 self in front of others and diffuse that warm and positive aura that so many others crave to be around.
Finally, believe it or not, most relationships either prevail or fall apart because of one factor: the energy you surround yourselves with. If the energy field around you is friendly and cheerful, you’ll attract others to surround yourself like a herd and never feel the heartache of loneliness ever again. On the contrary, encircling yourself with a negative, intimidating and gloomy aura will help others avoid seeking your company as much as possible. So, to sum it all up, when it comes to building solid relationships, staying positive and bringing in joy is the best effort you can make.
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But I will try InshaAllah
It’s not easy
Meee : smile
I love your comments and your lectures I can listen to you every day you give me hope it’s my marriage 40 years
Assalamu alaikum! My all family members have this quality form Allah swt alhamdulilah every minute,this is a power of seed and bed moments
Mel
Wa alyikum aslam
Tanks sister
Mashallah excellent reminder…in sha Allah ll bring more joy by being positive n bringing d best out of everything..
He was a very loving person I can’t forget him ever always have smile on face we had a great time when we were doing graduation together he will always with our prayers May Allah give him highest level of Jannah Ameen
In sha Allah meeee
Wa Alaikum Salam
In shaa Allah
MshAllah
InsyaAllah
From my children. I will try my best In Sha Allah
Control of anger
Inshallah
InshaAllah I’ll try to smile more
Assalamalykum wa rehmatullahi wa barakatuhu
Beutiful reminder. I will do it in sha Allah. I will try to keep a smile all the time
reframe your life & focus to love unconditionally
pause…focus to give love…Be kind rather than be right
spread kindness & love unconditionally
Masya Allah
Wa Alikom Salam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu
Beautiful and touching explanation sister Haleh, on how to bring joy towards each other. By checking our joy meter. Indeed, when we check our joy meter, we will have a wonderful and fenomenal relationships with our loves ones inshallah. .
Indeed inshallah, I will be mindful of my joy meter. And inshallah will re-evaluate myself to measure it, and make sure it is at a healthy and enjoyable status for my loves ones and everyone.
We can do it, to have a better world , better relationships. And to make life easy towards each others in the result of having a pleasant, beautiful and a healthy environment interaction. Beautiful advice sister Haleh as always, may Allah rewards you and grant you the highest rank in Jennah.
Maryam Lora That’s so sweet! Thank you! Ameen! I’m glad you enjoyed it and you’re motivated to bring the JOY!
Me In Shaa’ ALLAAH
Joymeter ma Shaa Allah great word!
Me
Bringing belonging , care and love no gloominess at all ! Alhundullah still do many blessings are around me ! Wswrwb
Inshallah !
Mee meme mee I am on it !!
We love u n ur lessons
loved this reminder!!
resetttt before husbands comes gone
Affection, appreciation, attention, acceptance
By not sharing problems
This is absolutely true but not easy to do. Definitely needs planning
Im allways bringing joy but unfortunately that doesnt work with a child who has narsisistic trates
Masha Allah
bring joy by cooking for my husband
Bringing the Joy and Love and Presence of Allah
Me will try my best
Inshallah I will
Assalaamualakuim
How to bring joy we lost it with life stress !!!!
How to bring the joy please when you feel overwhelmed ???
Please say my name once from your lips I wanna see you saying my name please
Assalamualaikum misssss…
Your biggest fannn everrrrr u r justtt