How can you avoid marriage burnout? One of the most common complaints that I hear from people is that they are just tired and annoyed with their spouses. This is what I call Marriage Burnout. This happens in every relationship. You can have the best marriage possible and still experience this!
So, how does one deal with it? How can we avoid burnout in a relationship? Read on to find out.
It’s very common to feel frustrated and fed up with your spouse after a point of time. So, what should you do to avoid this?

1- Self-care:

You have to indulge in some level of self-care. You cannot neglect yourself because you cannot pour from an empty cup. If you are neglecting your sleep or are indulging in unhealthy eating habits, you will inevitably be too tired and exhausted. This will make you mentally and emotionally drained, leading to unwanted frustration and anger at everyone and everything around you.
Self-care is similar to car maintenance. How important is it to fill up on gas before you go on a trip? Very important, right? You make sure all the parts of your vehicle are working smoothly, that you have enough gas to make your trip hassle-free. If you neglect your car and undertake a trip, what’s going to happen? You will definitely face a breakdown along the path. This is exactly what happens to marriage too! When you take care of yourself, you will be preventing a breakdown. This is crucial to transform your marriage!
Self-care can mean different things to different people. For some, it could be exercise while for others, it could be retail therapy. There is nothing wrong with you indulging in things that make you happy, as long as it is done in moderation.

2- Time apart:

This is extremely important to have a healthy marriage. Spend some time apart and away from your spouse. As a couple, when you spend your days and nights together without a break, it can cause friction. You can begin to take each other for granted and not really appreciate the blessing you have. Since the pandemic, almost everyone has been staying indoors with their families for months together, and this has brought several challenges in marriages. So, try to spend some time alone, doing the things you love or being surrounded by your friends and other family members. This will help rejuvenate your mind and also make you appreciate your spouse a lot more.

3- Keep your friend’s circle close:

After marriage, many women end up being too caught up with the hustle and bustle of marriage life that they forget the life they had before. They are cut off from friends and other family members because they are too busy attending to the needs of their spouse. To avoid relationship burnout there needs to be a balance. Yes, your spouse is important, but so are your network of friends and close ones. Your friends can cheer you up in ways you never imagined, because your friends can get you even when your spouse doesn’t. They add a fun factor to your life, helping you refuel. This automatically makes you happy and stress-free to an extent. When you feel relaxed, you can come back into your relationship with a cup that’s ready to give without being depleted.

4- Hobbies:

Develop some hobbies that would keep your mind relaxed and engaged. These little things bring us so much joy and happiness. When you are in that moment of feeling low and depressed, a hobby can really lift your spirits and keep your mind engaged in things that really matter.

5- Spend quality time:

A lot of marital burnouts happen because we are so focused on going with the flow and doing the mundane activities that we fail to spend quality time with our spouse and enjoy each other’s presence. Do something new and different together. When you are doing the same old routine, eating the same food, staying in the same place, watching the same things, you will inevitably become bored with each other. Introduce new things that you can do with one another to create excitement and spice up your marriage.

So, over to you. Which one of these tips will you be applying in your marriage from today? Let me know in the comments section below. For further guidance, you can find some free courses and content on how to enhance your marriage. Also, you can download a free PDF from the website to benefit from it, Insha’Allah.. May Allah bless you in your marriage with love, contentment, and happiness, Ameen.

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