People always ask

“How to be happy in life?” and “How can I become the Best Version of Myself?

Today I’m going to share some, Islamically sound, psychological tricks, and tips to help you become your BEST! Learn how to overcome depression, anxiety, and stress in your life. You will find out why this is dysfunctional and how it backfires.

Many people wonder, “why can’t my spouse make me happy? Why can’t my kids make me happy? Why can’t others make me happy?” When you are dependent on others to make you happy, you disempower yourself.

This is a very dysfunctional way to live because you’re expecting others to come to your rescue or to fill your cup all the time. This leads to neediness and an endless battle of demanding from others who will frequently fall short.

Some marriages are damaged due to low self-esteem or insecurities of one or both of the spouses. These insecurities often stem from childhood experiences that they may not be aware of and may require a mental health professional to help them get to the root of the problem.

A lack of spiritual fulfillment could also contribute to low self-esteem.

You need to fill the spiritual void with the love of Allah (God), or else you may try to fill it with possessions, fame, status, which can never be satiated.

The biggest issue with interpersonal stress and overcoming the obstacles to feel happy is finding ourselves focused on pleasing others and mismanaging our expectations from others’. People usually don’t reciprocate or respond as we would hope they would, which may lead to disappointment, stress, and prevent us from feeling happy.

Start looking for those things that will make you happy and empower yourself by taking responsibility for your own feelings. Remember, you are in the driver’s seat, so be proactive and take control of your own emotions.

Look within and check yourself to see if you have real, authentic confidence.

Ask yourself, “am I readily able to compliment others? Can I accept a compliment comfortably, without being NEEDY for it?”

The Islamic approach to authentic happiness is to please Allah. One should strive to seek the pleasure of Allah because He alone is the One who rewards exponentially. Every effort made in His way does not go unrewarded. This reward will far exceed our expectations as long as we have genuine sincerity.

When you acknowledge your blessings, it increases your gratitude for Allah and helps you gain humility. In fact, feeling thankful for what Allah has given you and whatever blessings you may have is the ultimate sign of gratefulness.
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Welcome to my channel! I’m Haleh Banani. A faith-based counselor with a Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology. Since 1998, I have helped people bring happiness, purpose, and success to their lives and marriages by empowering them to overcome emotional obstacles and bring about positive change in themselves, their businesses, and their relationships.