This one thing that you’re doing could be leading to anxiety and depression. So I really want to help you with this. I have many clients that come in and they complain about the fact that they’re feeling very anxious. Some may have panic attacks. Others are just feeling really down and depressed. They wonder, what is it that they may be, that they’re doing that is leading to this anxiety disorder.
And it really has to do with, you know, catastrophizing is when you see the worst-case scenario, it’s when you exaggerate in your mind, what’s going to happen. For instance, when someone is turning in an exam, they feel like they did really bad. They’re like, oh my God, I’m going to fail. I’m going to fail.
This is not only this exam, but I’m going to fail school and they just exaggerated to the point where they actually start believing that. And it does lead some many times to this even a panic or an anxiety attack. It might be that you’re on a plane and you’re experiencing turbulence. And instead of saying, okay, it’s a little bit turbulent.
It’s that feeling that, oh my God, we’re going to crash. We’re going to die. It’s over. And so obviously. When you start thinking about the worst-case scenario, your body is going to react because whatever you’re saying to yourself, your brain cannot distinguish between what is real and what is not real.
And so it’s going to see it as like, this is a real threat. And so your body starts. On adding to it as it’s actually happening. And imagine if you do this on a daily basis, I have many clients who have this kind of habit of catastrophizing, always thinking, oh my God, I’m going to get a divorce.
I’m going to know it’s over. Oh my God, I’m going to lose my business. I’m going to be homeless. And this. These are case studies that I’m sharing with you. I’m not making these up. And when someone really believes this, they believe that their life is you know, their life is in jeopardy. Their work is in jeopardy.
Their kids are somehow going to you know, fail in school or fail. Then they start having this kind of severe anxiety attack. So the best thing you can do is to treat it as first of all, having that awareness that you’re doing this because many people who catastrophize, don’t even realize that they’re doing this.
They do it. It’s so simple. It’s subconscious. It’s a habit that they’ve had for many years and maybe their parents also do the same thing. So it’s having the. Recognizing that you are catastrophizing right now, right at the mindful hearts academy, where I teach about these thought distortions and recognize them.
And many of the sisters who learned about this, they didn’t even know. They’re like, I didn’t even know there was like a name for this. I didn’t even know what that, what it’s causing. And so recognizing, first of all, learning about it, second of all, catching yourself. So with the next. You go to the worst case scenario, right?
Like, let’s say you have like a little bit of an issue with your problem and you immediately jumped to the conclusion that I’m going to lose my job. I’m going to go bankrupt and it’s all over. Catch yourself and say, you know, it doesn’t have to be that bad. And actually, if you’re aware and you take action, you can actually turn things around.
So instead of thinking, what’s the worst-case scenario also, you could think, you know, what’s the best thing that could come out of this and you start asking yourself what is the best-case scenario and your body is going to, you know, be calm in that situation. And you’re going to generate answers instead of thinking of catastrophes and horrible things and getting into the state of.
You’re thinking well, what is the best thing that could come out of this? And you prepare yourself for that. And it really does help when you educate yourself when you’re more cognizant of your thoughts, because of whatever you’re thinking about is going to lead you to have. Whether it is the anxiety attacks symptoms, whether it’s just feeling anxious all the time.
So even if you don’t have an anxiety disorder, you may have that feeling of worry, that deep feeling of worry. And it does most of the time stem from thinking of the worst-case scenario. So you know, you don’t have to do that to yourself because this is, you know, you have to be gentle. You have to have compassion.
You need to do things that will actually help you to make progress in life, to have peace, to have a good relationship. And when you’re just thinking constantly. About the worst thing that could happen. You are going to just, you know, you’re going to wear yourself out and most likely you’re going to wear everyone around you out because they’re going to be sick and tired of you exaggerating everything that is happening.
So really take the time to understand that you may be doing this, catch yourself. If you have the habit of doing that and then learn better coping mechanisms, right? And if you go to Haleh Banani com under courses, I have the mindful hearts academy. You can find it there and sign up beyond the waiting list.
And when we open up registration again, you can learn there, like at least nine. Thought distortions that I teach on this course on this academy, it is a curriculum. It is a very intensive curriculum that will teach you and give you all the tools, things you haven’t learned at home, things you haven’t learned, you know, sometimes, you know, throughout your life.
And it will give you that cutting edge. It will give you the piece that will give you serenity. It will teach you how to be a better person and have to have that emotional intelligence. You don’t have to suffer. I really want to help you get to the point where you can. Help yourself and help your relationship.
Thank you for tuning in and you can check out halehbanani.com under courses. I have some free resources and you can sign up for the mindful hearts academy there. Take care. Thank you Salaam Alaikum.
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Adeela Shahzadi Zohaib Ashiq Madiha Sattar
jazak Allah khairan sister
Asalamaleikom. Great to see sisters having moments of realisation.Jisakallah sister
Shabana Khan
Beautifully explained the root cause of anxiety and panic attack. JazakAllah Khayr sister .
Very onformative
Oh my gosh this is so me
Wow this is really informativeI really suffer from catastrophe due to post trauma (sexual abuse,physical and emotional abuse) really messes up my emotional intelligence
Fatima Mdala I’m sorry you’ve been through that. Please get help and overcome the trauma . You can learn emotional intelligence on my membership website: http://www.themindfulhearts.com Write your name on the waiting list and you can join when the registration opens inshaAllah.
Haleh Banani one day in sha allah when I can I will definitely enroll for this
Muna Ayoub
Self-fulling prophecy.
Yep even if just one single harsh word exchanged my brain would have ready to go atleast FIVE different direction to how may the disaster going to happen finally .
Yup I am definitely a Queen of catastrophising and no I am not proud of it, it almost feels like I am menifisting the worse result.
jazakAllah darling. … Being conscious of our thoughts is so important I’m realizing…. Thoughts make up our personalities.. they have so much weightage in building us … We need to control them.
JazakeAllahu khayran Khayran sister and your husband Abdulmajeed. May Allah bless you and your kids
Ibrahim Dremali Wa iyyakom our respected sheikh. Ameen to your dua. I really appreciate it.
May Allah reward you sister so much
Noor Moussawi Thank you so much! Ameen!
Thank you !this is me
Mash ALLAH may ALLAH heal us all
Love you
Houda Khodr
Zed Bakor this is brilliant habeebi
I get everyday anxiety attacks I don’t no what to use to get rid of it
Assalamoualaikoum
As Salamu Alaiykum everyone
Mashallah! Thank you!
Farida Farida Bushra Qureshi Someena Qureshi Saira Qureshi Aroosa Qureshi
What about men?
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Assalaamu alaykum all
Laila
Hans Husain
اللهم صل وسلم على سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم
شكرا habiba
Ma shaa allah , may allah bless you
Slm
السلام عليكم
Ma sha Allah