Will Your Abusive Spouse Ever Change?
Do THIS when you’re stuck in your relationships #halehbanani
Do THIS when you're stuck in your relationships #halehbanani
By Haleh Banani, M.A.
Haleh Banani holds a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology. A faith-based counselor, life coach, and mental health professional who has served the community since 1998 by saving hundreds of marriages and helping thousands of people around the world overcome their challenges and become the most amazing version of themselves.
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So true, I’ve been suffering in physical, mental and emotional abusive relationship for 16 years thinking he will change.
His family always saying to give him chance he will change, he just has anger issues.
And now he started cheating behind my back and I just don’t know what to do. He doesn’t want to leave to the world he wants to show us and behind my back stay with another person
Am from Nigeria.
Please I need responsible, God fearing,a good listener to talk too,a practising Muslim,btw 25 to 40.
Please am not a decietfull person
Asalam alykum
جزاكم الله خيرا
No never. There is no conscience and they see nothing wrong with their behaviour.
Manshalla habibit
What about narcissistic personalities. Can we have a successful marriage with them too?
No!
No these kind of men never change .infact they start abusing kids also .its better to be alone then to wait for that person to change.
No..its a behavioural pattern and about control
No and never .
Well Financially also not easy to live by your own especially when you have kids shelter is not a solution.
This is all so true. I’ve experienced it. Thank you for bringing awareness
Mine have been abusive the second day I set foot in his house it’s almost five years emotionally abusive physically abusive mentally abusive I left for almost a year he begged and promised he would change so I went back to him 4 months back on the day of Eid he tried to drive off the road with us in the car because I couldn’t make up my mind where to have dinner just.a week.je.told me to get out of his house throw money in my face and call me a f***** bitch .I have nightmares now am tired lost feel backed into a corner with no help so no they don’t change
What about verbal abuse. Can a abuser change especially if there are mental health issues they have.
Asalaam alaykum rahmatullah sister haleh
No and Allah knows best
Are we able to contact you and dive into our situation?
Thank you for sharing your word with us…my request is a little disjointed here but I have to ask if you could share a few tips to wear hijab the gorgeous way that you do it? I truly admire your dressing sense while keepong it completely in line with tradition. Haleh Banani
Thank you!
Anab Mahmood Shaff You’re so sweet! Jazakillah khair for your compliment. I love fashion and keeping it modest at the same time. What kind of tips do you want me to share?
Haleh Banani how to join ?
Some of them never stop
Every person has the right to leave an abusive marriage. You may heal physical wounds but not emotional ones. Abusers often don’t recognize the hurt they’re inflicting and often will blame it on you.
I thought he would change after having children but he got worse and then he divorced me, I wished I never stay with him, my advice to woman that please leave the first time he becomes abuses to you it be worth it and you won’t have him in you life if you didn’t have children!
Rihaneh Adel Sarsour I agree
I was guilty of this, thinking man will change after a baby & become caring & responsible but it was only delusional for me to think that. Most of Asian countries don’t have the support for Domestic Violence victims, they do not know where to go. Many think about what the community will think about you and men used religion to tied & make the women feel guilty.
My greatest fear is my kids how can I live without them,what are they going to face in their father if am not with them,even am with them. The are receiving bad treatment from. The father
Patience.. sabr…sabar
With duas
Can he change if they recognize?
Jaxakumullahu khairan
Most of Eastern men don’t even admit and realize it
Asalamu alaikom from Chicagoland
I wish they would change
Asalamu Alaikum