How to be a supportive spouse during difficult times

by | Nov 16, 2020 | Islamic Psychology and Spirituality | 73 comments

How to be a supportive spouse during difficult times

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73 Comments

  1. Arooj Jamil

    Exactly crying is not be with iman or no Iman thanks for sharing this

  2. Maya Hadie

    Every time you talk about your husband is like you got married yesterday . We can feel the love you got for each other

    • Haleh Banani

      Maya Hadie mashaAllah tabarakAllah we’ve worked hard to keep the love alive.

  3. Maya Hadie

    You’re lucky. Some don’t have this luxury!

  4. Maya Hadie

    Really? Hug? No I want to be left alone!!!!

  5. Bibi Khan

    May Allah grant you sabr

  6. Bibi Khan

    So sorry you lost your mom.

  7. Bibi Khan

    I lost my mom on 12/12/19. Heartbroken

  8. Mariam Aziz

    I want to hug you

  9. Maryam Hasan

    Inna Lila hi wa inna ilaihi raajioon

  10. Jill Braga

    I love you sweetheart

  11. Medina Aidarova

    Inna lillaahi wa inna ilaihi rajioon

  12. Neetu Imran

    Dear this is such a lovely talk. JazakAllah

  13. Abir Al-koky

    May Allah swt grant her jannah al firdaws and grant u all sabr

  14. Faizah Mohammed

    May Allah grant you sabr in these difficult times.

  15. Tasnim Aziz

    Furqan Merchant

  16. Kittenina Peach

    Can I ask what you do when your husband hides away whenever something stressful comes along or when you are going through a calamity and he spends most of his time sleeping saying he can’t help it if he is tired but it’s clearly escapism rather than being supportive.

  17. Sadaf Khan

    Asalam walikum

  18. Sadaf Khan

    So Sorry for your loss

  19. Ian Fazreena

    1. Be Present. Emotional available. Give focus, listen and full attention to your spouse.
    2. Never ever let a women cry by herself. Tips for husband. Never give solution or what do you want her to do. If she stay, she want to be alone, she is uniquely created that way if not, just be there for her.
    3. Don’t shut someone up because they are crying. Allowing that person to express their feelings like crying. After that it will be healing in their heart. Recognize that feeling.
    4. Crying is not sign of weak imaan.
    5. Reminds and says things like Allah loves you.
    6. Take a break. If your spouse in state in grieving, give them a support. Take them to walk etc.
    7. Change the environment in house.
    8. Take action. Make effort to make your spouse happier. During, challenging time inshaAllah you will see, each of you, make efforts for each other through out the journey.

  20. Faisal Khan

    May Allah Grant her junnat tul perdos

    • Tamanna Tahsin

      Sumaya Tasneem English post.:(

  21. Reshma Begum

    So sorry for your mom.

  22. Uzma Shereen

    Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Rajion May Allaah give her higher place in Jannatul Firdos

  23. Jb Mohamed

    Iskufilan Abdinasir

  24. Roza Y Albarznji

    I love you allot you talk same like my aunts

  25. Leila Chahbar

    So sorry to hear of your loss. May she be in the highest heaven.

  26. Quiet Hakim

    Asalaamu alaykum sister, I’m sorry for your loss. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi ra’ jioun. I appreciate your videos and may Allah reward you greatly for your efforts. The more I listen to your videos the more I think about my recent divorce. When you speak of the husband being next to his wife when she. Cries, I think about the many times I tried doing that and she would run to the restroom and lock herself in and cry/yell and scream how much she hated me. I couldn’t understand her. If it wasn’t the bathroom she lock herself in the bedroom and cry. The tears of hers were more than I could explain. She didn’t want the marriage so I divorced her. It has even been 2/3 of year since our divorce and she called and hung up on me last Friday. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want her immaturity and games. My daughter is 10 years younger and never disrespected me the way she has.

  27. Bibi Lesly Mangal

    Inna lillahi wa Inna Ilayhi rajoon may Allah Grant her jannahtul firdous

  28. Shima Salina

    May Allah grant your mother jannat

  29. Wossen Negussu

    So sorry to hear about your mom, may Allah place in Jannah!!

  30. Fathima Sheik Mohideen

    May Allah SWT magnify your reward with lot goodness for all your patience and grant your mom jannathul firdaus..truly she has gone through a lot..May Allah SWT grant maghfirah and great Rahma Ameen

  31. Noor Moussawi

    Sister it takes huge courage to come today and give this lecture. I don’t know how you did it, I would have broken down. You are so amazing really and ma shallah so strong, May Allah increase you inshallah May Allah yirhamha May Allah increase your ranks for this lecture right after what you went through. May every word you said be such a huge blessing and increase for you and your mom

    • Haleh Banani

      Noor Moussawi Jazakillah Khair for your thoughtful message. I really appreciate it. We can’t stop doing good just because we are tested. Alhamdulillah. It’s time to increase our good deeds. My mom inspired me to give and leave an impact. May Allah accept me as her sadaqa jareya.

  32. Gazala Saleem

    Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un. Allah swt give you all sabr in this difficult time.

  33. Fatim Kaba

    May Allah grant her al jannah firdaus without reckoning.. my condolences to you and your family..jazak Allah Khair for this video

  34. Melody L Krasz

    Assalamu’alaikum, I’m sorry for your loss. Your emotions make you human and has nothing to do with your Iman. Moms are beautiful gifts from Allah. It was beautiful of Allah to let you keep her with you here even if there were miles between you. Memories will keep her in your mind and love between you will stay and keep in your heart. Blessing of peace and solace I pray from Allah for you today and always. 🤍🤍

  35. Ayisha Irfan

    May Allah give you courage and patience .

  36. Anisa Solanki

    Inna Lillah.wa innaillahi Rajiun .may Allah bless her with the highest ranks in jannatul firdus. Ameen

  37. Sachita Malla

    Inna lillahi wa Inna ilaihi raajewoon sister

  38. Mariam Maryamti

    Allah yerhamha, wa Allah u barrik feeky wa yahfadhik

  39. Oum Basmalah Moussaoui

    We have to live the moment of sadness so we can able to pass it with time it’s natural

  40. Noor Moussawi

    Allah yirhamha sister. May ALLAH strengthen you and put her in Jenna

  41. Nancy Mt

    chicken wing

  42. Aamna Hanan

    Asslam o alikum sister i send you message on Facebook messenger. Please reply me if you can . Thanks.may Allah give you jaza.

  43. Reem Nasir Khan

    Thinking of you at this difficult time. Love and hugs for you

  44. Kauthar Busari

    May Allah grant her Aljanat Fridaus and grant you the fortitude to bear the loss.

  45. Beena Khan-Ali

    Salaam sis . May Allah continue to grant you the strength during this sad time.

  46. Anny Tariq

    So sorry for your loss. MA you are so strong and setting a great example for everyone.

  47. Jannah Jecel

    May Allah take her the highest jannah. Ameen yaa Rabi

  48. Bobby Talukder

    Assalamualikum, may allah ease your heart and give you sabr.

  49. Rahaf Kahaleh

    May Allah bless you sister Haleh, your husband and your family. Masha’Allah, it was nice seeing you today on the video and know that you’re doing fine. May Allah have mercy on your mom and give her janna alfirdous and elevate her to higher levels in janna from all that suffering that she went through. We’ll keep you and her in our dua’a, insha’Allah.

  50. Maimuna Said

    Jazakillah. May Allah give you more strenght.

  51. Nadia Hawa

    May Allah ease your heart sister Haleh xxx

  52. Mansoor Khan

    Salam alaykum
    Sister i have sent u a message , can u plz answer

  53. Farida Ali

    Inna lillahi wa inna elaihi rajioon. May Allah swt grant your mum the highest station in Jannat al Firdous and grant you and your family sabar jameel. Allahuma ameen.

  54. Uzma Jafri

    So glad to see you and so humbled to know you’re being so strong during this time. May Allah grant you peace in those who are gone and those who are here still loving you.

    • Haleh Banani

      Uzma Jafri Alhamdulillah I’m glad I’m feeling better today. It was an emotional weekend SubhanAllah. Thank you for your kind words.

  55. Rossanna Lela

    May Allah grant your mother Jannah al Firdaus.

  56. Lerato Kekana

    May Allah continue to comfort you
    So sorry

  57. ShahBano Kamal

    Sending you love and duas

  58. Ayesha Khan

    ASA Sister, I’m so sorry for you

    • Ayesha Khan

      Loss..May Allah grant your mother Jannah. Ameen

  59. Anonymous

    Reem Naeim

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